Why the Gays Love Final Fantasy and Why It Makes Perfect Sense
There’s a running joke in online spaces that Final Fantasy is the gayest straight-coded franchise in gaming—and honestly? It holds up.
If you’ve ever cried during an overly dramatic cutscene, argued about which crystal saves the world best, or picked your main based solely on glam, you might already understand the pull. Final Fantasy is more than turn-based battles and oversized swords (though we do love those). For many LGBTQIA+ folks, it offers something deeper: a space where identity, transformation, and chosen family aren’t just themes—they’re the entire narrative.
As a therapist who works with queer, neurodivergent, and often game-loving adults, I’ve had more than one client tell me something like:
“I didn’t feel seen growing up, but something about those games made me feel… valid. Powerful. Beautiful, even.”
Let’s break down why that makes so much sense.
1. Dramatic Identity Arcs? Yes, Please.
Queer people are no strangers to evolution. Coming out, transitioning, claiming who you are—it’s all high-stakes personal storytelling. Final Fantasy thrives on that. Characters wrestle with fate, question their roles, and transform (sometimes literally) into who they were always meant to be. Sound familiar?
2. Androgyny, Aesthetics, and Fashion as Armor
From Cloud’s spaghetti strap dress to Lightning’s model walk to the sheer abundance of sparkles in Final Fantasy XIV, these games have always blurred gender norms in ways that feel intentional—even when unspoken. They let players explore beauty, power, and gender presentation in ways that real life sometimes punishes.
3. Chosen Family Over Bloodlines
While some entries center lineage (lookin’ at you, FFXV), so many of the most iconic stories are about ragtag groups of misfits who find meaning and safety in each other. They protect each other, mourn together, save the world together. It’s the kind of community so many queer folks build when biological families can’t—or won’t—show up.
4. Melodrama and Emotion, Unapologetically
There’s something healing about a story that lets characters feel—grieve, rage, hope, love—with zero restraint. Final Fantasy doesn’t tone it down. It plays a soaring orchestral theme while your favorite character dies dramatically in the rain. It lets you be extra and takes you seriously while doing it. That’s queer joy and queer grief in a nutshell.
5. Safe Escapism with Emotional Weight
For many LGBTQ+ gamers, fantasy is more than escape—it’s survival. Final Fantasy games offer lush, otherworldly landscapes where your power matters and your pain has meaning. They offer hope without erasing complexity. They give us stories where being different is often the key to saving everything.
At Dryad Counseling, I work with many LGBTQIA+ clients in Ohio and Massachusetts who grew up loving games like Final Fantasy. Those stories stay with us because they mirror our real ones—sometimes more closely than we realized at the time.
If you’re someone who finds meaning in fantasy worlds, who cried over Yuna’s goodbye or felt something stir during a certain “you are not alone” moment, you’re not imagining the connection.
You’re just seeing yourself reflected—in all your beauty, complexity, and resilience.
Want to explore that more deeply? I offer virtual therapy for adults in Ohio and Massachusetts, with a focus on trauma, identity, and nerd-friendly care that honors all the parts of who you are.
You can learn more or schedule a session at www.dryadcounseling.com.
Until then, take your time. Cast Cura. Glam up. And remember—you are absolutely main character material.
